BY AYESHA HOSSAIN

As with anything connected to trauma, it’s complicated. There are plenty of reasons behind it and they tend to be extremely vast and layered. Nevertheless, for most of the people who have survived recurrent traumas, are often left  with both negative self-perception and negative mindset. You might have overwhelming negative thoughts and emotions taking place inside your mind such as feeling lost, worthless, shameful, guilty, hurt, self-blame and anger. Trauma is different for everyone and you’ve to treat your body, mind, and spirit with love and kindness gives you a chance to feel the very things you were denied or didn’t know you needed. You have to reclaim your worth no matter what. Below are some tips for coping with trauma.

Tips For Coping With Trauma

• It’s important to learn about what’s happening to us since we thrive in it.

• Have empathy for yourself and for the person you used to be will allow you to have compassion for others which is a form of healing.

• Stop blaming yourself for everything that happened

• We should always remind ourselves that we are not in control of everything. We should accept it for our own good and make peace with it.

• Start using your mindfulness.

• It’s crucial to have a balance and to own your responsibilities for putting into responsibility what you’ve learnt so far.

• Be careful of the automatic thoughts.

• Try to utilize the self-soothing techniques, for instance, find what is really soothing to you so that when you feel stressed then you can gravitate and it will aid in calming you down.

• Emotions are almost instinctual so you cannot really control your emotions but you have high control over the thoughts that lead to your emotions.

• It’s okay to make some mistakes. In fact, it’s a wonderful role modeling to say that ‘I made a mistake and I am not always going to be perfect.’

• Remember that we all are strong and have built in resilience.

  Advice for overcoming abuse (sexual, physical, emotional) as a child.

  The idea of you can be empathetic with your younger self even if your younger self was an adult still works. Going back to what did you learn and didn’t learn to prepare you. Well, if you were not traumatized very much as a child then you really weren’t prepared for it. Never blame yourself for anything.